Dr. Navodita cautions that maintaining privacy and integrity after achieving success is crucial. Guard personal information and foster trust through discretion and self-control, exclusively for Different Truths.
Success is not difficult to find. Yet once you have achieved success, there are ways one should guard privacy and lead a life full of integrity, truth, resilience, and trust. In order to build more trust in your relationships with your audience, fans, followers, and even family and friends, here are some ways in which you can achieve a perfect bond:
Personal secrets
Never share personal secrets with anybody. There are issues we all have faced in life—a personal setback, a health issue—but you
should avoid sharing it with even the closest person. You may feel you are finding an ear for your woes, but in reality, somebody else listening to your problems is not going to help either the listener or you—the past has happened and you have recovered from the negative situation, so there is no need to remind yourself about it or revise the negative situation and past mistake with somebody else.
Negative opinions about others
We meet a lot of people every day. Yet we don’t get along with everybody. However, it is not advisable to share a negative opinion about a third person with somebody you are talking to or even with your loved one. If you want current friendships to be guarded, then you should not share a negative opinion about others, even with a close friend or a family member.
Family issues
Every family is fraught with its own set of secrets. It is not advisable to share some of your deepest family issues with anybody—not even with your spouse or with a best friend. There are some family issues, like a poverty situation or a struggle your family might have gone through—these should not be shared with others at any cost. While you think you are innocent, sharing your family secret may be taken adversely by others, and they may judge you on that family secret.
Personal fears
On your journey to success, everyone has their own set of fears—the fear maybe of failure, distrust, an insult, or some betrayal. Avoid sharing your personal fears with others, as that may leave others feeling you are not confident in your skin. Everyone has personal fears, which must be forgotten soon enough, or else the deepest fears come true. Often, one thinks about love, threats, and fears—fear should be avoided at all costs. Divert your mind instead to love.
Your good deeds
In our life of success, there are often good deeds we have done. There are times we have been good to others—emotionally, physically, or spiritually. A good deed often inflates our ego and self-worth. However, this feeling is supposed to be kept secret. Performing a good deed can inflate and bloat your ego, which, when shared, enlarges the go even further. So, it’s best to keep it a secret, even if somebody forces you to tell the truth. When it comes to truth, feel yourself accountable to only God without sharing it with anybody else.
Your ambitions
Everyone has ambitions and aims in life. However, if you want to achieve this in your life, it has to be kept a secret. Revealing your ambitions and aims to others may often dissuade you or pull you down from achieving them—either in the form of a lack of enthusiasm or simply in the form of more obstacles on your road to success.
Hence, next time you want to achieve a life of integrity, peace, and privacy, you should achieve all or some of the above-mentioned states of mind. There has to be the right balance of how much you share with others, family, and friends around you. Many times, others have already found out about you from others. That’s not what matters. What matters is how much you reveal to others about yourself and your life. Secrecy, when kept at the right time, can portend a future way to a life of fulfilment.
Picture design by Anumita Roy
Navodita Pande teaches Mass Media and Communication and English to ICSE/ISC school in Assam. She also trains students in Yoga, gratitude and healing. She loves to paint, write and read as her pastimes. She lives in Assam with her daughter.
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